Day 31: God Wants His Best for You

In my previous message, we looked at four principles, which are as true today as when God created Adam and Eve. Let me try to show you how they apply to marriage in our lives as Christians today:

• First of all, if you're a man, God will decide that you need a wife. It is not your decision, but His.
• Secondly, God will form the right wife for you.
• Thirdly, God will bring that wife to you.
• Fourthly, God will determine the nature of the relationship under which you will live as a married couple.

If you're a woman, we just have to turn it around a little and the same principles apply:

• God will decide that some man needs you as his wife.
• God will form you and prepare you to be a wife for that man.
• God will bring you to that man.
• God will determine the nature of the relationship in which you will live as a married couple.

In other words, whether you be a man or a woman, the initiative, the decision, the process of preparation, are all with God.

Now, what does God require of you, that you may find His will in this vital matter? I want to give you seven simple rules which I believe will greatly help you:

• First, believe in God's purpose for your life. Believe God has a destiny for you. You are not just an accident looking for somewhere to happen, as somebody said once. God has a purpose for you. It's a good purpose.
• Second, commit your life totally to God.
• Third, walk in the light of God's Word. That is, go by the general guidance that God has made available to all His people.
• Fourth, cultivate fellowship with God's people, because out of the people you have fellowship with, it is probable that God will pick the one you are going to marry. If you fellowship with unbelievers, you are likely to end up marrying an unbeliever.
• Fifth, realise your value as a child of God. Don't make yourself cheap. Don't accept second best in this vital matter of your life. The trouble with many Christians is they don't value themselves sufficiently highly as children of God, and they accept some poor substitute for God's best.
• Sixth, be prepared to wait. Waiting is one evidence of faith, and it's one that God often requires us to demonstrate.
• Seventh, be sensitive to the Holy Spirit. Let Him choose your way and direct you.

I pray sincerely that God may guide you and have His way in this most vital decision of your life.